Updated: Sep 9, 2022
Children’s relationships with their kindergarten teachers are related to their academic and behavioural outcomes.
Diana Baumrind, a clinical and developmental psychologist known for her research on parenting styles wrote in her chapter on ’Rearing competent children’ that the ‘optimal parent-child relationship at any stage of development can be recognized by its balance between parents’ acknowledgment of the child’s immaturity—shown by providing structure, control, and regimen (demandingness) and the parents’ acknowledgement of the child’s emergence as a confident, competent person—shown by providing stimulation, warmth, and respect for individuality. Montessori's Decalogue, drawn from Maria Montessori’s teachings, constitutes of ten guiding principles for adults to use as a framework for behaviours and mental attitudes to best serve the needs of young children.
1. Never touch the child unless invited by him (in some form or the other).
2. Never speak ill of the child in his presence or absence.
3. Concentrate on strengthening and helping the development of what is good in the child so that its presence may leave less and less space for 'evil'.
4. Be active in preparing the environment. Take meticulous and constant care of it. Help the child establish constructive relations with it. Show the proper place where the means of development are kept and demonstrate their proper use.
5. Be ever ready to answer the call of the child who stands in need of you and always listen and respond to the child who appeals to you.
6. Respect the child who makes a mistake and can then or later correct himself but stop firmly and immediately any misuse of the environment and any action which endangers the child, his development, or others.
7. Respect the child who takes rest or watches others working or ponders over what he himself has done or will do. Neither call him, nor force him to other forms of activity.
8. Help those who are in search of activity and cannot find it. Make your ready presence felt to the child who searches and hide from the child who has found.
9. Be untiring in repeating presentations to the child who refused them earlier. Do this by animating the environment with care, with restraint and silence, with mild words and loving presence.
10. Always treat the child with the best of good manners and offer him the best you have in yourself and at your disposal.